Friday, December 19, 2014

Secure Surety

Hello again!

I am trying to get 'organized' now... so far so good. ;)  These blog posts are now every Friday at 12pm.

So in last week's we discussed setting fires for hell.  You know I, thank God, haven't now!  I am blessed beyond measure and am constantly awed by new gifts, joys, and blessings the Lord sees fit to send our way!

Its a choice of keeping one's tongue closed and remembering that the God of the Universe, of the millions of Galaxies (etc!) lives inside of me!  How wonderful he is!

I often forget this little fact.  And the fact that he is already winner over Satan.  This is where we crumble, to the unsettled.  I sure can't stand that uncertainty, and I no longer have to!  The certainty and fact in knowing Jesus is to me the most important.

We are created to need and desire order, and truth.  Without it what dim bliss, if it could be called such.   I've heard ignorance is bliss... what the foulest lie!  It is forever fearfulness and uncertainty of everything.  But in Jesus Ahh!  Just as the scripture says "There is no fear in love ('God is love' see verse 8): but perfect love casteth out fear: because fear hath torment. ..." 1st John 4:18

Amazing!  So for this Christmas, I hope you have the surest surety in Christ Jesus.  The son of God, and Creator of the universe etc. and you.

This is why God's spirit made a mortal virgin pregnant, that the child would be both fully God and fully man.  Thereby able to die (as a mortal) for the sins of the world, and to be raised from the dead (as God) to defeat death and Satan, return and reign in heaven at the right hand of God!

God Bless you!
Merry Christmas,

Friday, December 12, 2014

Setting fires for Hell

When I wake up I think it'd be easy to go down stairs and have a happy morning.  But na, not when we stand for Christ!  Am I dreaming?  I guess so!  I often forget I do have a battle to wage everyday.
And when I forget that I attack my own side and I turn into a fire-starter for hell....

In the spiritual realm around my home, this is probably the most easiest job I could get.  And I often wake up and quickly apply for it!  This is VERY wrong and VERY scary.

I read 2nd Peter 2 this morning and was re-afeared of the Lord in the BEST WAY EVER!!!! PRAISE AND THANK GOD!!!!!

This verse stuck with me the most:  [2Pe 2:10 KJV] "But chiefly them that walk after the flesh in the lust of uncleanness, and despise government. Presumptuous [are they], selfwilled, they are not afraid to speak evil of dignities."

I am often unafraid to talk evil of my authorities.  This is a VERY wrong thing.  And I am quitting this sin, that I was 'okaying' in my life and calling fine!

I have no right, adult or not, to talk evil of the authorities God put in place over me.  He wants us to obey them, he did put them in place for a reason!  Even Mr. Obama!!!  (Rom. 13:1)

And even as an adult in my parent's home I need to obey them and honor them.  [Heb 13:17 KJV] "Obey them that have the rule over you, and submit yourselves: for they watch for your souls, as they that must give account, that they may do it with joy, and not with grief: for that [is] unprofitable for you."  And even if my parents weren't Christians (Thank the Lord they are)!  [1Pe 2:18 KJV] "Servants, [be] subject to [your] masters with all fear; not only to the good and gentle, but also to the froward."

I am tired of being a fire starter at my house.  A fire starter for hell.  I'm sick of being a 'double agent' which in reality means I'd be in huge trouble with Jesus if I died!  :[  Here is the verse that re-awakened my fear of the Lord:
[Jas 3:6 KJV] "And the tongue [is] a fire, a world of iniquity: so is the tongue among our members, that it defileth the whole body, and setteth on fire the course of nature; and it is set on fire of hell."

And you know its better, though maybe a tad harder, to work for Jesus, but its awesome!
[Eph 6:11-12 KJV] "Put on the whole armour of God, that ye may be able to stand against the wiles of the devil.   For we wrestle not against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this world, against spiritual wickedness in high [places]."

Check back next week for "My own Pilgrim's Progress",
His girl,
Faith Elizabeth Grubb

Friday, December 5, 2014

Crumbling Unsettled

James 1:3 "Knowing [this], that the trying of your faith worketh patience."

Proverbs 17:3 "The fining pot [is] for silver, and the furnace for gold: but the LORD trieth the hearts."

We've all been there once in that outer-space-like area where we feel miles, years and even worlds of control...
Where everything you've ever believed or trusted is being fried around you, to test its truth, strength, reality or not.  Its a scary and unnerving place, it feels like every inner conviction of yours is being unraveled out of you and you can't do anything to stop it, your deep rooted roots start snapping far underneath the ground of your skin and everything you've been raised to think was right starts to look all wrong, or at least not proven to be right...

This is the battle of life.  I've finally gotten here and its a tough, but interesting place.  Since our childhoods, whether children of Jesus or not, we've been seeing little glimpses of this battle since we were little kids.  We've even been battled when we were little but not so hard.
But I'm finally here being tried.  And we all are in our teens and early 20s.  Where will we stand concerning truth, hell, heaven, God, Satan, wickedness or righteousness?  The spiritual world wants to know and needs to.  So thus we are tried and tested.   Satan needs to know if he need bother with you, or are you believing his lies anyway?  Then no need.  And Christ needs to know, will you stick by him, and trust him in every area of your life?  Even when the very ground you're standing on crumbles under you?  

He has sent his very son to save us all, if we'll just believe but we tend to wait to decide.  We tend to relax and reach for the easiest route, thinking we have worlds of time to him-haw away.  But the truth is your's, mine all our lives are only vapours in the whole plan ([Jas 4:14 KJV] 14 Whereas ye know not what [shall be] on the morrow. For what [is] your life? It is even a vapour, that appeareth for a little time, and then vanisheth away.).

We don't have much time to plan for eternity which is never ending and timeless place after this life. 

God is real.  And you ask me how I know this.  He lives in me.  I know him.  Just like I know my family and friends.  He is so ready to get to know everyone of us.  We just have to ask to get to know him, like with any friend!   And he'll tell you about himself.  If we just listen.  If we cut off our friends or neighbors, they won't continue talking to us.

We are in a battle for life, over life.  God wants to know if you want life or not- eternally.  Ask him how to get this eternal life!  He will answer if you are truly seeking answers.  But he won't be mocked and answer a fool who asks for 'fun'.  Life isn't fun and games last I checked.  People die, people are born, people have issues, and yes people have fun and games, but not all day everyday of their life.  It will never be so.  And can never be in this life.

As I am a child of Jesus, I stand for him.   I am being 'tried' by the world now, or rather being laughed at and yelled at by the world.
[Jhn 15:19 KJV]  "If ye were of the world, the world would love his own: but because ye are not of the world, but I have chosen you out of the world, therefore the world hateth you."
Its all part of the battle and its awesome to see how today in our time, the black and white is getting clearer.  There used to be a big gray area but not now.  Are you for or against me?  Jesus wants to know.  Satan wants to know.

I can only tell you of my experience, but so far, this battle is about do I trust God or not?  In everything.  As I talked about the ground even crumbling under you.  Great, nice Christian leaders you've looked up to completely turning to Satan, family members choosing wrongly, friends turning to enemies.  But this is why we can't even trust our own spouse, or parent.  Jesus is the only one you can trust ever.  And when you start putting your trust in anything else, even things: being a singer, being a 'pretty' girl, being a 'Christian', being an American, you start to waver in your step and you even fall once or twice, or twenty times.  But its all worth getting up again for.  Just to see the Lord of Lords at the end of time... to even fall in death fighting for him would be worth it.  Worth all the love he's given me 'er I was dreamed of, while I was in my sin, while I was a wicked girl doing wrong and knowing it.   As this song ("His Kind of Love" by Group 1 Crew) says, his love was reckless for us, it'd be worth doing that for him in return!

Thank you Lord Jesus!  Glory forever and ever to you!
Your crazy girl,

Saturday, November 29, 2014

Christian Romance

Hello again!  I'm having a wonderful fall, I hope you are as well.
I have been offline for a while.  And plan to be off again, for a while.  Its given me time to think...

A few months ago our family got to visit a friend of ours and we got to talking.  Our subject: Christian Romance and Love.   The article that I shared with you all here a while back ("Always Ravished with Love") sorta spurred the conversation.  Anyway, from what I understand my friend believes two individuals must be all out 'in love' before they marry each other, for it to work.

I disagree.  Not totally, but I disagree that this is a must to get married.  In some cases I do find its a must for the two parties to be 'in love', but in others it isn't necessary at all.

For example, I know that throughout history (even up to the early-mid 1900s) many couples were arranged to marry.  They were either 'ordained' to marry so and so or their partner was picked when they were children, or they were told to marry such and such for their position in society.

Many of these couples married and remained happily married up until they died and they learned to love each other after marriage.   I'm don't deny it that some of these couples never learned to love their spouse, and rued the entire arranged marriage sadly till they died, utterly unhappy and ill-wed all their life.    But my point is that its not a guarantee (as the Ravished article seemed to say it is...) that if you are 'in-love' to begin with you will have a happy blessed marriage (this has been proven over and over in this modern era of the sex revolution where marriage='love' and 'romance' 24/7.  And if you don't find it the world tells you that its your 'right' to divorce).    

My friend, said he wants a love like Solomon's (in the book of Song of Solomon).  But this book, last I checked, is about a married couple and  is certainly not of how they met nor of the prior to marriage.  This is where I am in disagreement totally with him.  You will not always find your spouse with an instant revelation or spark of 'love at first' sight, most of the time actually you have to spend time together to let love grow (as it describes in the Ravished with Love article).
My sister for instance is now married and in love with a wonderful man!  They met in 2009 and never said a word to each other.  He actually talked with my other sister and I.  And then three years later he thought of Christina, who was nearer his age, so he contacted her.  They wrote each other and were soon in love and married!  They were in love before they married but not at first glance.  She actually thought she liked someone else at that time ;)

And another thing, God's plan for each couple is vastly different and never the same.  He created heaven and earth and we seem to beg and yearn to know his 'recipe' for finding a spouse and getting married, but to my knowledge he left us no such recipe.  And to me I don't think one exists!

He only left us a book of what a good person is like and what a bad one's like.  And he leaves it up for us to decide.  (I wrote more about this here).

I am just saying that one could marry without love if need be.  For instance in case of a man who's wife died and another lady came along that was good with children they could marry without love for the children's sake (like in the movie "Apple Dumpling Gang").   But I'm not saying marry someone you absolutely hate.  That would be a dumb mistake on your part (as you'd have to live with them the rest of your life).  I'm saying someone you know you could live with and you felt it was the path God was leading you to.  Not go out and marry a guy with kids.  God has rules and he loves us too much to let us end up in an unhappy marriage.  But I'm saying you could marry anyone whom you feel the Lord was leading you to marry regardless of your feeling in love or not.  There was a girl I read an article by.  She was in a courtship with a very Godly guy, whom she didn't really know.  And she knew God was leading them together and she felt it was his will for her.  So she (feeling it was too weird to marry without love) prayed and asked God to give her a love for the man before they got married.  Sure enough he did!   I just know I don't have to have love to marry a man if I knew he was the one God wanted me to marry.  And this 'love' business is just to glorified in this day and age and I'm sick of it sometimes.  Sorry for my crassness.

Just obey God no matter what.  The world swears we must have love to marry or just have it 'good'. But the Lord may call you to a marriage without knock-out sensual (worldly) love at first sight.  And He is all love himself and I know he loves to reward and give wonderful gifts of joy and peace to those who follow him, regardless.

Anyway this is just my take on the whole 'in love' issue.  It would be very nice, if I fell in love. And hopefully before marriage, but whatever my Lord wishes and he will direct me who to marry, whether he gives me love before or after "I do"! :)

The King's child,

Tuesday, November 25, 2014

Give Thanks

Its been a nice Tuesday!  And Melody is 25 today!  And its a girl's party at my Memaw's tomorrow. So some free time, YAY!

So for about two years now I've been wondering what the will of God was for me personally.   Along with this (more recently about this last half year) I've been noticing thankfulness in the bible, thanksgiving, give thanks, with thanks etc.  Its mentioned quite often through out the bible its amazing.
Thus this past Sunday I heard a sermon this, about Thankfulness.  For thanksgiving! :D  Thus I've been learning to be thankful.  Seriously.
His sermon was about how thankfulness 'repairs' your heart, as in an heart disease, you take certain 'repair drugs' or surgeries to fix your heart.  And so spiritually thankfulness makes you spiritually grow, it makes your faith grow too, as in thankfulness you realize God has already provided everything! The verse he used for the whole thing was 1st Thessalonians 5:18.

1Thess 5:18 KJV "In every thing give thanks: for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus concerning you."

Its simple.  In growing up into adulthood, I tend to start thinking too seriously.  And thus I think EVERYTHING is too complicated!  But its not with Christ! :D   He's made it simple enough for a child to understand.  And its all FOR a reason.  He tells us NOT to worry, as its better for our hearts, minds, souls and bodies NOT to!  How awesome is he!
And he died for us and we still have to make life complicated!  Adulthood ain't that different, its just life, only you're in 'up to your neck'!  (to quote Gregory Peck in "Guns of Naverone").   We're still God's children and that's what's AWESOME we can become kids again and carelessly rest in our Daddy's lap, he's got it ALL under control! :D

Its just cool how he put it all together for me! :)  And what a study it'd be to look up thankfulness in the bible!

Thank you for reading and let me know what you're learning this Thanksgiving season!
His gal,

Tuesday, November 18, 2014

Kindness at Home

My friends!  You all know how home life is, a bit too 'real' right?  Like waking up isn't a scene from It's a Wonderful Life where all the kids are so sweet and kind.

Its not as lovely as we would wish or like.  Home life is a battle as a Christian family.  Satan is there to whisper lies to everyone, and the angels of the Lord and he, is just sitting there to help, but we hardly ask we strive to do it on our own, by ourselves and we always fail.

I've been deceived by satan's lies and I'm tired of it all.  Its not fun trying to do it anymore.  Its work, useless work that we'll never win alone.

These are some lovely candles my dear friend Beth makes!
Its time to give up and let the Lord battle for us.  He can do it WAY better anyway.

I've been reading James.  And I love chapter 3.  But it also scares me.  As I with my mouth, having been setting afire the course of nature with fire from hell.

[James 3:1-18 KJV] "1 My brethren, be not many masters, knowing that we shall receive the greater condemnation. 2 For in many things we offend all. If any man offend not in word, the same [is] a perfect man, [and] able also to bridle the whole body. 3 Behold, we put bits in the horses' mouths, that they may obey us; and we turn about their whole body. 4 Behold also the ships, which though [they be] so great, and [are] driven of fierce winds, yet are they turned about with a very small helm, whithersoever the governor listeth. 5 Even so the tongue is a little member, and boasteth great things. Behold, how great a matter a little fire kindleth! 6 And the tongue [is] a fire, a world of iniquity: so is the tongue among our members, that it defileth the whole body, and setteth on fire the course of nature; and it is set on fire of hell. 7 For every kind of beasts, and of birds, and of serpents, and of things in the sea, is tamed, and hath been tamed of mankind: 8 But the tongue can no man tame; [it is] an unruly evil, full of deadly poison. 9 Therewith bless we God, even the Father; and therewith curse we men, which are made after the similitude of God. 10 Out of the same mouth proceedeth blessing and cursing. My brethren, these things ought not so to be. 11 Doth a fountain send forth at the same place sweet [water] and bitter? 12 Can the fig tree, my brethren, bear olive berries? either a vine, figs? so [can] no fountain both yield salt water and fresh. 13 Who [is] a wise man and endued with knowledge among you? let him shew out of a good conversation his works with meekness of wisdom. 14 But if ye have bitter envying and strife in your hearts, glory not, and lie not against the truth. 15 This wisdom descendeth not from above, but [is] earthly, sensual, devilish. 16 For where envying and strife [is], there [is] confusion and every evil work. 17 But the wisdom that is from above is first pure, then peaceable, gentle, [and] easy to be intreated, full of mercy and good fruits, without partiality, and without hypocrisy. 18 And the fruit of righteousness is sown in peace of them that make peace."

Together as God's children we need to obey him, and yield to him.  No other.  And we NEED to continue to PRAY for each other.  Everyone, even that annoying sibling in Christ at church or at the last gathering.

I along with everyone could use prayer.  And also don't forget that as we are going through so much ourselves what about each one of our siblings and our future spouses?  They too are all Christians learning to trust the Lord completely and learning his will for us!

[Pro 17:1 KJV]
"Better [is] a dry morsel, and quietness therewith, than an house full of sacrifices [with] strife."
(All of Proverbs 17 is good, like verse 9)

His Girl,
Faith Elizabeth

Monday, November 3, 2014

Continue in Prayer...

"Watch ye therefore, and pray always, that ye may be accounted worthy to escape all these things that shall come to pass, and to stand before the Son of man." - Luke 21:36 KJV

In the book "Preparing to be a Helpmeet" (which I wrote about here) I read one very important thing, which has helped and stuck out to me.  The author, Debi Pearl, encourages to pray for the men around us and for Christian men and Christians around the world.
Interestingly enough another Christian lady, yesterday, wrote a blog post about the same thing here.

As Christians we need to continue in prayer always.  We are urged to in the bible (below Rom. 12:12).  To start with I've learned to pray for my brothers, John and James, who will someday be heads of families and need to be even stronger men of God than they are now.  They need prayer to battle this rotten world.  Its a struggle everyday- for every one of us.  Its a battle and we're constantly on the battlefield warring against satan.
"10 Finally, my brethren, be strong in the Lord, and in the power of his might. 11 Put on the whole armour of God, that ye may be able to stand against the wiles of the devil. 12 For we wrestle not against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this world, against spiritual wickedness in high [places]." - Eph 6:10-12 KJV

We all need to pray for our Christian siblings.  Married, single, struggling or prospering alike.  I like to pray for those around me.  And yes for those whom I'm attracted to as well.  
Pray that in all these different lives the Lord's will be done and that they seek the Lord in all they do.  And oh what joy it is to pray!  But we mustn't pray in the streets or on the roof tops shouting our prayers and bragging how much we do pray.

And also just, for us dreamy eyed folks... (men and women alike) I've learned its good to pray for those we're attracted to, but there is a huge snare if we aren't careful.  We can idolize someone very easily, and its okay to love someone, whom you're close to a courtship or relationship with, but even through 'praying for' someone we can turn them into a god, and thus defile ourselves before the Lord.  I still pray for those I'm attracted to, but if they are gaining WAY too much of my mind, and becoming an idol even over the Lord, then I stop for a while and remember to focus and pray for my future husband, whoever he is.  And also I try to pray for at least one unsaved person I know.  Or some struggling Christian sibling.  It keeps my eyes on higher things.  And reminds me that my ultimate home is in heaven.  :)  

I'm still learning the balance between idolizing and love... its tricky... And sorta hard when it only in one's head. ;)   I just keep my eyes on the father and continue to pray for those around me.

This is such a blessing:
"10 [Be] kindly affectioned one to another with brotherly love; in honour preferring one another; 11 Not slothful in business; fervent in spirit; serving the Lord; 12 Rejoicing in hope; patient in tribulation; continuing instant in prayer; 13 Distributing to the necessity of saints; given to hospitality." - Rom 12:10-13 KJV

Jesus' little girl,

Thursday, October 9, 2014

Multiply the Crushes...

Some random thoughts... I just want to encourage you to keep yourself pure before God. Everyday, in everything you do. Especially between men and women.

I'm not gonna tell you what you should or shouldn't do.

I only wish to encourage you to examine every interaction you have with anyone. Examine each interaction and ask yourself "If Christ, my parents, my grandparents and all my church friends where standing, sitting here as I do 'blank' with whoever, would I be uncomfortable, would they? Or would they be horrified?"

Dude, its your life and everything has a consequence (good or bad) but I just wanted to remind you all that the Lord and everyone WILL -one day- be there viewing how you interacted and lived.
So do you want to cringe on judgment day? I SURE don't...

I'm not gonna lie we all have a crush or two, at the first.  We think its good to 'follow' our hearts.  And we think it'll be fine, but it SURE don't work that way.  I learned the hard way.  It not only gives you pain to follow your heart, but it also leaves you feeling dead, or pretty near.

Crushes aren't sinful, they are the most natural thing (I've talked of this in a previous post).  But how you handle it is EVERYTHING!   Today I was talking to some friends, I had mentioned the name of one guy I like.  And I went on to say how it really don't matter for us women whom we like or don't like.  For us that guy will come along and 'get' us... all the way to marriage! :D  Regardless whether he was the guy we sorta liked or not.   Another thing though I don't (and can't) 'like' just one guy anymore.  I used to and that was NOT healthy.  I would dream too much and focus all my waking hours on thoughts of him. 

This got me into some trouble and its a hard lesson I learned but I've found that you MUST NEVER have ONE crush, but 'several' at a time.  And there is NO 'one and only' until you're marrying him and he IS YOUR one and only! :D

Bad: Think about it, say I like 'Dick' only and have a crush on him, I only think of how cool our futures would be together, then I start telling all my girlfriends and pray only for him (forgetting to pray for my 'future man'.... and only for 'Dick'), then I start feeling that I "know" he's 'the one' for me!  Thus a mess ensues.... a bad, filthy, hurtful, and hard mess.  That you now have to live through, and face.

Good: Now on the other hand I like 'Charlie', 'Jim' and 'Danny'.  I do like them all equally.  And I KEEP it that way.  I like to keep them all in my prayers, along with my future husband (who might be one of them, or a completely different person)!  I also keep it 'light' and not too dreamy (if at all) about them.
And I am better honoring my future man, whomever he is and he will have a light heart knowing I was not 'head over heals in love' with anyone but him. :)

This is just my experience and I don't know all the answers.  But if you seek the Lord's guidance, in EVERY situation you will be good!

Take care and forever ask him about EVERYTHING!  He most of all wants to be your closest friend.  And for a healthy marriage he MUST be your closest friend, even closer than your spouse.  And in closer I mean talking EVERYTHING over with him first.  As my Mom told me, "You have to, as your man usually won't always want to talk everything over."

Bless the Lord, For he is worthy!

-Faith E. Grubb

Monday, September 15, 2014

Esty Store

Hello all!

I don't who all of you have noticed, but I sew and I like to. :)  I've been working on an etsy shop for a long time, and I finally opened it! :D

Check it out! And let me know what you think!

Tuesday, August 26, 2014

Suffering with Nothing to Whine About

I am loved.  Loved by the creator of all creation, the creator of life, morals, the universe, 'the world' and everything in it.   Being so loved, I should have nothing whatever to worry about, or even think of being worried about... AT ALL.  NOTHING.

"Though He slay me, yet will I trust him."  Job 13:15

Do we have the faith or love for God that Job had?  God is all so wise, as he is the one and only God, and maker of all.  This makes him the BEST leader, the most faithful boss, the gentlest ruler, the most patient teacher, the holiest king, the truest and closest of friends as well as sweetest and kindest of lovers.

For us today it is hard to conceive the idea of a 'bride price' sometimes.  But if you think about it long enough and study the multiple cultures and meaning of it etc you'll see that even among all the world, God paid the highest of 'Bride Prices'.   All for us his 'bride', he died and gave up EVERYTHING.  I don't know about you, but I know to me my life and I myself don't seem worth dying for.  Especially for the King and maker of the universe to die for.  But he did.  Jesus Christ himself, I am only thankful.

Thus back to my point, I should have nothing to whine about.  Ever.   But life happens, and as many of you know (and have experienced) suffering, pain, grief, rape, death, heartache, shame, sin, regret and tragedy hits us on occasion.  Sometimes it knocks the entire wind our of us and we feel we can never recover or overcome*.
So does this excuse our whining?  Or give us the right to get mad, self-pitying, upset, rude etc?  Of course not.  I don't care if my family all died tomorrow, as Job's did (God forbid it to happen).  That would still give me no right to slander or blame God, or so much as complain in bitterness.
Now when I mention complaining and anger, it can be done in a good biblical way, without sin.  "Be ye angry and sin not." (Eph. 4:26).  And I can complain to the Lord (read the definition here, if you would [I'm referring to the 1st one] let's say its the same as 'pray about something').  I can decide whether to complain with or without sin or wrong intentions/thoughts.  For example, in a good way we need to complain to the Lord that 'So and So' isn't saved yet and it really bothers us.  He wants us to bring our requests and petitions to him!  But he does NOT want us to be all 'poor pitiful me' in our complaining.
You may still think I'm a little 'out there' as far as not whining/complaining of when any of the above said issues come up.  I'm not making assumptions here, seriously this can and must be done when we are in any form of suffering, pain, grief, betrayal etc.

Some may ignore the pain, and 'bury' the entire 'event' (or circumstance) to best deal with the hurt. Some may talk of nothing else for their relief, to 'talk it out'.  But many others may start to blame the people involved around it, and the list of how people deal with 'issues' goes on!
How SHOULD we handle these though?  How must we deal with pain and grief?  I won't deny I've ran across a lot of my own, as I'm sure you have.   And I don't claim to have the all knowing answers, nor claim that I've handled every situation of life 'best'.  But I'll share with you what I've learned from experience.  I hope some of you can avoid some of the heartache I've gone through.
What I've learned, its all in the thoughts.  No matter if its pain from someone dyeing or pain from some betrayal.
See the picture for the grid of responses we should and shouldn't have.

Anyway.  The Lord need our 100% attention.  He said he doesn't want lukewarm, or mild.  He'll actually appreciate Ice Cold more so, although he'd really like everyone to be 'Boiling Hot' for him!
Even when good things happen he wants our attention.  In the ups and downs.  He wants to be our best friend, but if we don't share with him or let him be, then he can't be.  And when life  hurts us why don't we let him show us how to go through it?  He's the only one to hold our heads above the water in the storms.  And when life and how it turns out isn't up to us, why not go to him (who directs the foundations of the world) with everything we face?

All I can say is that I've learned that no matter what happens to me, whether I loose my voice, my home, my ability to write, or my sight, I still will follow my Lord.  Call it blind faith, dedication or crazy in the head, but I am his.  He paid the biggest Bride price.  He died and purchased me with his own blood.  And it wasn't only the blood of a man (that would be even special) but it was the blood of a perfect man, and the SON OF GOD himself!!!

His holy, free, white sheep, who has nothing to whine about,
~Faith Ellie

* In Revelation alone an overcomer is mentioned 8 times, and each time with a promise.
Rev. 2:7  Rev. 2:11  Rev. 2:17  Rev. 2:26  Rev. 3:5  Rev. 3:12  Rev. 3:21  and Rev. 21:7 "He that overcometh shall inherit all things; and I will be his God, and he shall be my son."